I am a Sikh. V is a Hindu. Its quite strange that we still had an arranged marriage, because generally in such cases, the parents arrange their child to get married with a person of the same caste, religion. Since, marriage in India is not just between two people but between two families, this logic makes sense. Its easier to adjust to the new household if you belong to the same religion. You are used to the customs, norms, everything. So the whole transition from a Miss to a Mrs is easier.
Before marriage, I never followed any of the Hindu customs or practices at home, though, I would sometimes visit the temple with my Hindu friends, and celebrated Hindu festivals like Holi and Diwali. After marriage, things have changed – nothing drastic nor anything I have an issue with- just something inevitable as a result of an inter-religion marriage. I have never been too religious, but since V is and so is his family, I have started praying. I am not even an atheist. I believe in God, but I believe the best way to be in his good books is by being nice to everyone around. No matter how much I pray if I hurt someone’s feelings I know I’ll pay for it. So for me, to get closer to God, I need to be more tolerant to those around, and treat everyone with respect. That’s always been my logic and for me self-improvement is the only way to keep God happy with me. But, out of respect for my in-laws and V’s feelings, I try to pray as often as I can. Of course, it does give you a sense of peace and calm when you pray. So, it’s something I have grown to like. And somehow, I feel that the incense and diya (oil lamp) lit after Puja generates good vibes in the house.
Now, last Saturday was Ganesh Chaturthi. My mom-in-law asked us to perform puja at home. Generally, during a festivity, when you perform Puja, you offer some mithai (sweets) to God and then distribute it as prasad (god’s offering). On Ganesh Chaturthi, the sweet offered is generally modak (a dumpling made from rice flour/wheat flour with a stuffing of fresh or dry-grated coconut, jaggery, dry fruits and some other condiments) but, I also read that Ganesh ji has an inkling for besan ke ladoo (a sweet made from gram flour and ghee/clarified butter) too. Since I did not have any coconut on hand I thought of making besan ke ladoo. I saw the recipe from this site. (I know, mine don’t look as great as hers- I think I would up the amount of ghee used)
They were not like the ladoos I have grown up having- the Lovely Sweets (a famous sweet shop in Jalandhar, Punjab, India) besan ladoos- which are heavenly. Well, they are made by professionals and in lots of desi ghee. So, I shouldn’t compare. But, these ones tasted good too. V, of course, loved them. The fact that only a few remain, lends a testimony to my previous statement!:)
Link for the ladoos: http://charchechaukeke.wordpress.com/2008/11/22/daanedaar-besan-ke-laddoo-sweet-gramflour-balls/
An updated recipe for besan ladoos with tips and tricks to get perfect ladoos is up on the blog here
Hi Shumaila, Thanks a lot for the link and trying the laddoos out. I am really glad that these tasted fine to you.
I did not want to reply to you before I tried once again with my measurements. Two things come to mind regarding the ghee quantity : 1. Sometimes I really fill the cup well with flour . It is not a good idea to fill dense flour in the measuring cups. Airing the flour before measuring helps. 2. Keep on frying on medium low heat, I know the hand hurts but you will eventually see the legendary “ghee shining over” . Sometimes when I think that I have browned the flour enough, I need to reduce the heat and continue frying for just 5 more minutes cause I am just there. I most often lose patience and that is when I add more ghee. To make low fat items, use the muscle as well. Thanks again for bothering to try out the recipe. I am amazed how well new brides manage cooking these days, I would just make mistakes one after another when I was newly married. Keep up the good work!
Hey!! Thanks so much for the tips! Sorry couldn’t reply earlier as I was busy with my in-laws who were visiting.. Will definitely try the ladoos again wid ur suggestions and thanks for appreciating and also for the recipe!!:) Will let you know how my second attempt goes!
Your story is nice. I’m actually in the same exact boat. I’m Sikh and my husband is Hindu and we both moved far away from home (although not as far as you). Even though there are lots of Indian restaurants in this city, I’ve recently tried recreating the yummy foods my mom made when I was living at home, in a healthy way so we don’t have to eat out too much. I like reading your blog and you’ve helped me make some really good Punjabi foods!